Self Psychotherapy

Self psychotherapy is not a modality of therapy treatment as far as I know. There has been vast amounts written about self relations in psychotherapy however in this instance – self psychotherapy refers to a do it yourself plan using Astrology.

In my view it is unreasonable to make generalisations about whether psychotherapy helps or not. There are many people who say they benefit from counselling and others who say they do not. There are some people who never consult the counsellor or enter into therapeutic contracts. The reasons can be numerous and specific to the individual.

The reasons for such a divide between pro therapy experiences and negative responses for therapy are enormous. It would be safe to say that each individual will have reasons for or against doing therapy and whether or not – the therapy has “worked for them”. Its obviously a subjective qualification by persons with or without degrees of pathological (neurotic) consideration. Lets face it we all get fucked up at some point in life.

need help - maybe not

Do we find ways to help ourselves?

An extreme case of self survival might involve the non conforming person who has paranoid perspectives about counsellors and the mental health system in general. The person may be inflexible and refuses to access help. The person may limit their social interaction and stay away from anything or anyone who reflects elements of their pathology. Perhaps the closest people to such non conforming persons (family and partners) will suffer the most with respects to controlling behaviour. In the end when family and partners find ways to get on with their lives outside of  controlling and pathological behaviours – the extreme non conformist person commits suicide rather than accessing psychiatric help.

At some point in the processes of gaining self awareness there may be an uncomfortable experience which reinforces a persons inwardly directed shame. Perhaps in the early cognitive approaches of mental health work or in the person’s social settings there is something suggesting to the person that he or she is flawed. No one really likes to reflect on their negative behaviours and thoughts especially when the indications suggest “room for improvement”. Perhaps at this early point in the process of accepting elements of self awareness depends on the current stressors in life?

I can remember about thirty years ago when it appeared to me that my relationship issues followed the same negative and repetitive patterns. At the time I was pretending not to experience any grief or anger by repressing my feelings. Unfortunately the old methods of handling things were not working for me anymore. I found it difficult to control my feelings back then – and whilst experiencing so many ‘alien’ like feelings – I was overwhelmed. This is when Psychologists refer to adjustment disorders and high stressor ratings in a client’s life. I needed help that is for sure!



In my own family heritage there were misconstrued beliefs whereby attending a psychologists office also implicated mental health issues for the person. So you see I had to go against some quite embedded generational family beliefs before making an appointment with the good counsellor. It pays to be rebellious in some instances.

I did six sessions with a counsellor that a good friend referred me to.

Perhaps I expected too much or had little idea in the the way “counselling worked” because in the end I was even more confused. The counsellor said she had finished working with me. What the hell? I can remember there being a “Lilith” presence in our official relationship – perhaps I set things up to fail – was she supposed to rescue me? Was I evil? Counselling was not much good for me back then.

I certainly couldn’t go through life in the same ways I had been experiencing back then. I had to find a way to “do it myself” – my survival depended on this.


Do it yourself

The most important aspect in accepting some form of help is proving to oneself that the “help” feels good and its Ok!  Astrology seemed the most convenient method available to me in those days. I had already proved to myself the benefits in astrology information. My curiosity in the subject had peaked after having a reading with a local Astrologer.  I was primed to learn more about the subject and therefore learn about myself. My own self psychotherapy began. All I had to do was learn about Astrology.

There are eight planets and two luminaries in my natal chart – each of which reflect different elements of my psyche. The planets and luminaries are situated in particular zodiacal signs and then located in one of the astrological Houses. The personality descriptions of these planetary placements seemed accurate to me and thus inspired me to read astrology books for months on end. I had found a way to understand myself through learning about Astrology. I was open to a self awareness process and I was absorbing deeply symbolic meanings that Natal Astrology can offer.

Self Psychotherapy is about changing ones life through self awareness work and its not easy doing it alone. In the early stages of self help work – finding a modality that one can identify with takes some shopping around. At some point in time outside lessons or help will probably be required.

Later in my life I became open to the idea of training as a Therapist. I embraced further awareness work involving intensive cognitive – emotional and behavioural therapy work. Its not easy becoming a counsellor or to start the process of accepting “outside” help. Perhaps one needs to find a good reason to do so – to go to counselling – to find something “in it” for oneself otherwise counselling is not going to work.



7 Responses to “Self Psychotherapy”

  1. 1 DOMINO June 29, 2009 at 15:52

    Interesting journey. Astrology is very helpful in understanding oneself, I agree.

  2. 2 Graffiti June 29, 2009 at 16:20

    From what I have seen of you Kinsley you work very well as a therapist.


  3. 3 kingsley June 29, 2009 at 16:26

    Thanks for saying that Grafitti.


  4. 4 kingsley June 29, 2009 at 16:32

    Hello Domino, living the experiential life makes identifying aspects of oneself through astrology or therapy somewhat easier.


  5. 5 KazzaB June 30, 2009 at 08:28

    “The most important aspect in accepting some form of help is proving to oneself that the “help” feels good and its Ok!” I think that sentence says it for me Kenoath. Feeling that I am important enough to have that time for myself and have the focus on me.

    I had sort of the same experience as you, in that I saw a counsellor in my early 20’s but unfortunately I went once, because she scared the daylights out of me. It obviously wasn’t the right time for me.

    I’m glad you found astrology and it fitted for you.


  6. 6 kingsley June 30, 2009 at 16:16

    Hello Kazza, yes I think there can be a “right time” for a person to start counselling work.

    Many clients seem to start counselling when something goes wrong – a crisis of sorts. The first sessions are all important in my view. If the counsellor can begin to understand the client in the first ten minutes of the session, things seem to go well from there.


  7. 7 Bethesda Psychotherapy November 16, 2009 at 23:01

    Astrology are there as a guide to our life. Keep it up Kinsley.

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