With the New Moon in Pisces this week there is an opportunity to receive some caring support instead of battling through life doing things tough. Being open to recieving support for some people is a very difficult prospect indeed. A person may feel bad in themselves by admitting they need help.
Hugs are Support
The degree of the New Moon at 6 degree Pisces which is the Sabian degree “A Large Cross laying on the Rocks”. Linda Hill describes this weeks New Moon in a deeply compassionate and spiritual manner – please spend some time reading the article if you haven’t already done so.
It is not uncommon in counselling to establish therapy “contracts” where the clients accepts goal orientated treatment plans based on receiving support. A few years ago I was working with a client who seemed to need support to get through her weekly life. The person had limited support available to her as her mother lived in Europe and her ex husband had started a new life.
Some people have struggled to no ends in their life while receiving little support what so ever. Other people seem have the “right stuff” and consider getting any help to be a sign of weakness. The particular client who came for counselling – agreed that a supportive treatment plan suited her.
Over the weeks working with the client they became increasingly rebellious to the idea of support. The client seemed to be an independent woman with good assertive skills in life. Usually after some time in counselling a person can learn skills so they can eventually “support them-self” and begin to feel less helpless in the world.
If however a client is dependant or reliant on others support – the thought of becoming self sufficient – “not helpless” any more may leave the person up in the air between supportive therapy contracts and and being fiercley independant in life.
How did we get here?
Well it is reasonable to think from here things went down hill rapidly with my client. There was not enough time for me to back peddle or change our therapy goals. The client booked again however cancelled before the day. She booked again and cancelled again. Usually I let cancellations like these go on for two or three occasions before creating some boundaries. I realised the client was angry with me and rightly so for getting into such a predicament. I let her cancel four or five times before saying that I could not make any further appointments with her.
The only trouble is when the serial canceller gets angry and stuck again – it is likely they will once again turn to me for anger management. The person only has to make an appointment with me and fail to show up thinking I will be pissed off. Usually a “serial canceller” will give you an indication of who its is. They will leave a sign or an incongruous statement in the phone call that identifies such behaviour.
If my client is back soon – I will gladly accept them not turning up. I will not be angry or feel put out by such behaviour. I accept that the person is experiencing pain in life and that they are reaching out in their own unique way. I would also be very happy to re connect with such a client though – to clear the air with the hope to start again.
If there is anything that can help in situations like these it is the compassionate Pisces New Moon and A Cross Laying on the Rocks.