There is a technique in gardening called companion planting or inter-cropping. Inter-cropping is where one plant is grown next to the other with the hope that both plants grow to maximum potential. The two plants compete for the same nutrients however they assist in each others growth in complimentary ways. In relationships and synastry work it would seem holistic to also find two people capable of growing together in a similar fashion as inter-cropping philosophy. Unfortunately that is an idealistic concept in the human world.
Below is a quote from a Danish inter cropping website explaining the nature of inter-cropping.
“Inter-cropping is considered as the practical application of ecological principles such as diversity, crop interaction and other natural regulation mechanisms. Inter-cropping is defined as the growth of two or more crops in proximity in the same field during a growing season to promote interaction between them. Available growth resources, such as light, water and nutrients are more completely absorbed and converted to crop biomass by the intercrop as a result of differences in competitive ability for growth factors between intercrop components. The more efficient utilization of growth resources leads to yield advantages and increased stability compared to sole cropping.”
The principle of companion planting sounds wonderful but is the result always equitable? There is a tree in Australia called Nyutsia Floribunda or the Christmas Tree. The Christmas tree is a symbiotic tree which requires a companion to produce its bright orange flower every year.
The Christmas Tree
Unfortunately for the companion plants the Floribunda sucks all the nutrients for itself and leaves the other plants to manage somehow. The Christmas Tree in other words is a thief by design and uses other plants resources to produce its display of extraordinary bloom. The Christmas tree is perhaps a passive plant with narcissistic and antisocial tendencies. Perhaps it is even more unfortunate for the Christmas Tree because without its reliance on and proximity to other plants it produces less orange flaming. In the end the other plants die off and become less useful for the Floribunda. Such is life in the plant world.
In Psychology the need for reliance on others to survive is called dependency. Where two people become quite reliant on each other the term co dependence is used and where a person needs both Independence and dependency at the same time, the term Hostile Dependency is used.
There are many indicators in Astrology for dependency and the incongruous nature of hostile dependency in the natal chart. Relationships and the nature of the first and seventh houses are predominantly involved however there are planetary combinations which also play an emphasis in how we might attract others to get what we need in relationships.
Planetary combinations and placements for dependency in the natal horoscope involve:
- Moon Neptune aspects
- Venus Neptune
- Moon in the seventh house
- Saturn in the seventh house
- Moon Pluto aspects
- Moon in Pisces
- Neptune on the ascendant
There are also placements in the natal chart that indicate strengths for a particular person which can ultimately work to attract others who may not have such strengths in their personality make up. For example; Moon Jupiter in a woman’s chart shows a need for caring and nurturing others in her life. It would make sense that she attracted the kind of worthy person to fulfill this ability she has. The complexity underlying her need to nurture others requires her partner to allow her this “job”. There is something in the process that she gains by diverting her attention to the needs of others. In other words the Moon Jupiter woman perhaps ignores aspects of her own life by caring for others. The development of this kind relationship can in build co dependency factors.
There is much going on beneath the surface here
A person may have an emphasis in Cardinal points in the chart which explains their need for action and seeking out challenges in life. They are survivors and have means to do that but what if they also have Moon on the seventh cusp? There seem to be two requirements the person will need to seek out. On one hand they can be independent and on the other they need relationships in their life.
Similarly with other chart contradictions which describe independent motivations for a person and then their need for someone else in their life. Mars in the first house and Saturn in the seventh house may also represent the incongruous nature of Hostile Dependency factors. The person is very happily dependent in the relationship one moment and then they push the person away during arguments to gain their independence once again.
The hostile type of relationship can take years to end with one ‘patch up’ after an other until one or both persons decides that they have been ripped off too much and seek out other partners. It is very difficult for a hostile dependant person to be alone but when they are with the person they claim to love, they hate that too.
Perhaps the Australian Floibunda Christmas Tree operates within a complex symbiosis where using the other trees to meet its own needs. Is that stealing if the other trees allow that to happen?
By either good luck or the complex underlying needs in relationship patterns, Jupiter in the eighth house represents how a person is lucky with other peoples resources. Perhaps Jupiter in the seventh house also allows for the good fortune in attracting generous and abundant partners.
There is something about the Moon Jupiter woman that is attractive for the other person involved in that kind of relationship. It seems all they must do is meet an underlying need in return to complete the relationship symbiosis.
It seems that the idea of companion planting in human relationships is fraught with complexities however in human nature our cognitive abilities allows for changing ones position in life. To stand firm and to create boundaries or by attaining awareness in how taking too much can be like stealth by symbiosis. Sometimes to accept that we need others in our lives and by operating in the best ways possible. Or by sorting out our own individual issues instead of enlisting someone else for that purpose.
Sometimes the “such is life” philosophy is “such a cop out”