It’s Not Over Until The………….

Grieving is a natural part of the cycles in life clearing away the bonds and attachments to that which we once held dear. It goes to say that the stronger the attachments are, the deeper grief seems to be. Who can say how long in time we must endure the grief in loss; Its not over until the…………. 

Celebrating loss is a well known remedy to the hurdles of pain which grief presents. 

 See more wonderful pictures celebrating the Heath Ledger passing. http://www.thewest.com.au/multimedia/WAN%20ONLINE/mm1/Galleries/beach.flash/

The strength and need of our attachment to things and others in life is perhaps the measure of the grief process when experiencing loss. The following diagram courtesy of Tony White; (Psychologist) represents attachment during loss of loved ones.

The attachment to the other remains within our own sphere of thinking or feeling long after the “other” has gone. The healing process involves the pain of separating from our attachmnent.  The degree of pain might be described by our individual attachment styles. Those with more sensitive proctlivities or dependant styles of attachment may experience more pain during the grieving healing process.

So, how can we dilineate our potential attachment style in natal astrology? How can Astrology determine the type of grief and consequent transformation we might experience from healing our grief? Remembering that grief can also be described through the loss of a number of different life experiences; such as ones health, career, money or possessions, loss of hope and friendships. The loss of ones own somewhat embedded and negative coping styles through therapy, can also be loss. What ever the loss might be, we still feel an empty space within during the grieving process. You may have already guessed that Chiron’s involvement in the delineation of grief issues. Lets look at a current separation process involving pain, loss, the eclipse and Chiron. 

It would seem that Paul McCartney is currently going through some grief. The recent eclipse with Mercury and Chiron is opposing his natal Moon. McCartney’s problems with women in life are perhaps reflected by his own Moon Chiron square Venus. When Paul was fifteen years of age Chiron opposed his natal Chiron and his Mother passed away with breast cancer.  

Paul McCartney’s dysfunctional attachment style can be described by the aspect Moon Chiron square Venus. Venus represents nurturing, relationships and security in the astrology chart whereas Moon Chiron represents his early sense of abandonment with respects to his mother. The tension created with the square aspect defines his great need for attention and security. The aspect pattern is a sensitive point where pain and suffering can be triggered by other planets. 

Paul’s celebrated relationship with Linda McCartney ended sadly when she died of cancer many years ago. Transitting Chiron was square the Moon and opposite Venus in his chart at the time of Linda McCartney’s death.  It seems to have taken Sir Paul years of grieving only to be thrust into the spotlight with another separation or “wounding”. His relationship to Heather Mills has lately been a protracted legal battle where dirt is flying thick and fast.

 

Moon Venus Chiron Persists for Sir Paul

It seems that Sir Paul is more concerned with the publication of his personal affairs by Heather Mills. As rumours go, Paul is offering more millions in the separation process for Heather to keep quite about private and personal matters. I wonder what Paul fears more in the separation?  

Neptune on the ascendant suggests that Paul’s persona is glamorous and mysterious. He offers an image of himself that seems perfect to Heather and indeed to the world. The loss of face and persona would seem quite important at the moment as would the loss of millions of pounds in personal wealth (Venus rules the 2nd House).

The current Chiron opposition has indeed triggered another hurtful separation process in Paul’s life. There are other natal chart points that emphasize Paul’s attachment style; including Mars and Pluto, planets above the horizon and natal Sun at the highest point in the chart. His ‘attachment’ to his sense of dignity, identity and popularity can be seen by the strong angular placements. The more pressure Paul applies to maintaining certain attachments in his life the harder the loss (Moon Chiron) will be experienced. Perhaps the lesson from his current separation lays in his willingness to let go of what is truly important to him. That may not be Heather Mills nor the money involved, however perhaps his adherence to long standing coping methods; or controlling devices designed to eliminate pain from his life experiences.

No doubt that his Mother experienced feelings of scare and pain in both her relationships and with regard to financial security according to the Moon-Chiron-Venus pattern. Paul McCartney seems to have embodied loss and grief of the Moon Chiron symbology as his script in life. That is the way it works for him.  

When there are feelings of grief through separation from loved ones the symbology of Chiron is not far away. Are the coping mechanisms of control worth defending with millions of dollars? Perhaps enduring a life of protracted grief, psychologically is worth it? Sometimes survival is the main motivation during the crises times, the healing hopefully comes later. Perhaps there is a time in life to let the experience of grief and separation wash over us? To find another way; like the beach mourners celebrating Heath Ledger’s death at Cottesloe Beach last Saturday. In my mind, the “circle” of experiencing loss in life is a cycle involving the willingness to endure painful feelings and then celebrating that loss; and its not over until the circle is complete.

 Kingsley